HEY JOE, SOMETIMES YOU JUST GOTTA DO THE RIGHT THING EVEN WHEN A LOT OF PEOPLE ATTACK YOU, by Art Smukler MD, author & psychiatrist

After spending my professional life searching with my patients for the truth and how to deal with issues that have impaired their lives, I am so frustrated that millions of people continue to think that Trump is okay and that lying is okay. The fact that so many of them continue to support a thief and a liar horrifies me. 

There are many reasons why democrats want to work together with their republican counterparts but sometimes you gotta just do what’s best.

Gun control!

The filibuster! 

Clean air!

On and on!

Republicans won’t change. It didn’t help that Obama was trying to be reasonable and they just stonewalled him. It won’t help you.

Mr. President, stop including them!

Use the slight advantage in the Senate and make our country a safer place to live. 

They lie. They obstruct . They call names. So what? Do the right thing. Screw politics. Protect our children and us.

If you enjoyed reading, Inside the Mind of a Psychiatrist, you might also enjoy Dr. Smukler’s novels – Chasing Backwards, a psychological murder mystery, Skin Dance, a mystery, andThe Man with a Microphone in his Ear. All are available as paperbacks and eBooks. 

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FOX NEWS, A SIMPLE SOLUTION – MONEY, by Art Smukler MD, author & psychiatrist

Freud is best known for leading the way to understanding the unconscious part of our mind and how it influences our behavior. He is also known for stating the obvious, “Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar”.

So, with that in mind, what do we do about Fox News, a powerful news station that continues to lie about almost all things political, as long as it supports Trump and his misguided base? We should FOLLOW THE MONEY!

These are some of the companies that continue to advertise on Fox News: My Pillow, P&G. Amazon, Kraft, Pfizer, Sandals Resort, Pet Smart, Liberty Mutual, Allstate, Progressive, Verizon, Abbott, GM, Carvana, Noom and Novartis.

What does this have to do with mental health and psychiatry? A lot! For four years we’ve been inundated with massive political lies that have created anxiety, depression, insomnia and you name it, a lot of pain. When a news station advocates a liar like Trump and overthrowing democratic principles, we need to do something! Our peace of mind and safety depend on it.

This doesn’t call for being analyzed on the couch, it calls for a boycott on anyone who supports liars.

Don’t buy or use the products of the above companies!

I’m switching to AT & T and will do my best to not buy or use products that advertise on Fox News. That will make me feel MUCH better. If we all do that, perhaps we can get rid of Hannity et al.

If you enjoyed reading, Inside the Mind of a Psychiatrist, you might also enjoy Dr. Smukler’s novels – Chasing Backwards, a psychological murder mystery, Skin Dance, a mystery, and The Man with a Microphone in his Ear. All are available as paperbacks and eBooks.

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WHAT TRUMP HAS IS WORSE THAN MENTAL ILLNESS, by Art Smukler MD, author & psychiatrist

Often through the years, I’ve told patents that being aware of how they suffer is special, that a lot of people are incapable of psychological insight, they just do what they do without any ability to see how their behavior affects others.

A sociopath is untreatable. Many of them reside in our prison system, because they don’t belong in a world of trusting, ethical people. They lie, cheat, steal, and create all kinds of violent mayhem without a touch of guilt. They are incapable of feeling guilt, therefore they can do whatever they want as long as no-one stops them.

Sociopaths only feel bad when they are caught and punished. Not because they hurt anyone, but because their ability to cause harm or steal etc. is thwarted.

Like all sociopaths, Trump is a danger to anyone who tries to stop him. Lucky Donald has many mini-Trumps (little Republicans) who aid his destructive world view.

How many Americans would still be alive if HE wore a mask?

How many restaurants and stores would be open if HE advocated social distancing?

A LOT!

Oh… and what about Russia? What leverage does Putin have on Trump?

The cabinet and Pence have the ability to deem Trump incapable of keeping us safe and remove him from office.

Will they do it?

Never.

It’s depressing and disgusting.

If you enjoyed reading, Inside the Mind of a Psychiatrist, you might also enjoy Dr. Smukler’s novels – Chasing Backwards, a psychological murder mystery, Skin Dance, a mystery, and The Man with a Microphone in his Ear. All are available as paperbacks and eBooks.

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MY ADVICE, JOE — DON’T WASTE YOUR BREATH, Art Smukler MD, author & psychiatrist

Sometimes the time for debate and discussion is over. Rational discussion is only helpful when you are dealing with a rational person.

My experience as a psychiatrist, who specialized in doing psychotherapy, taught me that a point is reached when a person will do whatever he wants, in spite of overwhelming evidence that his decision is wrong.

That is the case with a person ( I don’t call him a man because he is too much of a spoiled baby ) like Donald Trump. Joe, you’ll never be able to have a reasonable discussion with him. It’s like trying to get Hitler to stop invading Europe. Sometimes war is appropriate when you want to save the world.

Now, it’s time to hunker down and vote. Why subject yourself to the arrogance of a hopeless narcissist? Who cares what he says? If you don’t debate him he’ll say you’re scared. If you do debate him, he’ll scream whenever you point out that he’s a liar and an obvious racist. Take the night off and have a romantic dinner with your wife.

His sycophants won’t change.

Most people won’t bother listening to the lying blowhard, if there is a 2nd debate.

Don’t deal with him again. Let him rant and scream to his unmasked followers. Who cares? Prepare yourself for the job of rebuilding this nation.

If you enjoyed reading, Inside the Mind of a Psychiatrist, you might also enjoy Dr. Smukler’s novels – Chasing Backwards, a psychological murder mystery, Skin Dance, a mystery, and The Man with a Microphone in his Ear. All are available as paperbacks and eBooks.

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VOTE THE LIC OUT! by Art Smukler MD, author & psychiatrist

The LIAR IN CHIEF and his enablers must go! This is not a time to lie on the couch and analyze your troubled past or be philosophical. It is a time for action. Save us all from this Republican circus.

A patient of mine had a fantasy that if hijackers ever tried to take over a plane he was on, HE’D STOP THEM! Our country is being hijacked! No fantasy. This is real.

Let’s fight back.

If he/she hasn’t stood up to the LIC, vote him out.

Remember Nuremberg?

If you do his bidding, you are also guilty.

Forward this to ANYONE who is eligible to vote.

If you enjoyed reading, Inside the Mind of a Psychiatrist, you might also enjoy Dr. Smukler’s novels – Chasing Backwards, a psychological murder mystery, Skin Dance, a mystery, and The Man with a Microphone in his Ear. All are available as paperbacks and eBooks.

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SO YOU WANNA VOTE FOR TRUMP? by Art Smukler MD, author & psychiatrist

I KNOW, you’ve already decided. You don’t like the way he acts, BUT he’s for Israel or he’s good for the economy or he’s pro-life or he’s pro-guns or you agree with him and think science is over-rated or you just like assholes…

Wait! The asshole thing was just a joke.

Hear me out! So silly. How can you hear someone out when you’re reading? Well, if you got this far, just be a little more patient.

Being a one or two issue guy or lady is understandable, but voting for a proven liar and thief is not cool. It’s stupid. EVERY person who works for him is a liar. Everyone!

Rationalize all you want, but the whole world thinks he’s an idiot. THE WHOLE WORLD! Only Putin, another liar and thug, may think he’s terrific. Why? Because Putin can manipulate him.

Should you care about the underprivileged? Should you care that poor people can also get healthcare? Should you care that Trump is one of the most obnoxious liars and thieves in modern times?

Yes. Please, yes. Care.

Vote with pride and compassion.

You’ll still be able to ride your Harley. You’ll still be able to use a weapon to protect your family and you’ll still be able to have all the babies you want or not…

And the market will do fine. Even Mr. Wonderful and Mark Cuban of Shark Tank fame, support Biden.

Please help get that malevolent creep out of our sight.

If you enjoyed reading, Inside the Mind of a Psychiatrist, you might also enjoy Dr. Smukler’s novels – Chasing Backwards, a psychological murder mystery, Skin Dance, a mystery, and The Man with a Microphone in his Ear. All are available as paperbacks and eBooks.

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MEDICATION? AN ANSWER OR A CURSE? by Art Smukler MD, author & psychiatrist

Just recently, a patient who I hadn’t seen for decades, responded to one of my posts with a scathing rebuke of me, psychiatry, and the overuse of medication. He felt he was mistreated with drugs, psychiatry in general, and me in particular – a know-it-all attitude – that caused him enormous pain and suffering.

I remember him well and knew him to be a caring, bright person, who certainly wouldn’t set out to be mean or devaluing without cause.

He challenged me to examine myself and my profession. After getting over the initial shock and sadness that he felt the way he did, I decided to do what he suggested. So here goes…

After my training, as a young psychiatrist (so long ago), I really believed that most problems could be solved with psychotherapy – making the unconscious conscious. In short, understanding repressed memories and feelings could lead to having the freedom to make real choices, not choices based on unconscious rules that were embedded at a very young age. For example: not being allowed to hate a loved one often led to unconscious anger and subsequent depression.

It took a few years in practice for the realization that “talk therapy” could be very helpful for many patients, but not all. Schizophrenia, Bipolar Disorders, severe depressions, overwhelming panic disorders etc. almost always needed the use of medication. Miracles occurred. People who suffered for years, got better when the right medication was prescribed. Sadly, the miracles didn’t always happen. More often, a combination of psychotherapy and medication was helpful, but not perfect.

In fact, the practice of psychiatry is not perfect. Antidepressants work in only 66% of patients. Antipsychotics are helpful but there is no cure for Schizophophrenia. Mood stabilizers are necessary in bipolar disorders but there is always the chance of a reoccurrence of symptoms or side effect from the medication. Anxiety disorders (panic disorders, OCD, general anxiety) could get some relief from anti-anxiety meds, but there is always the danger of addiction, side effects, and break-through anxiety and/or symptoms.

What in life is perfect? Unspoiled Nature? First love? A really good pizza? But, even with these, there’s a long list of hazards.

Then there’s psychotherapy… The therapist uses his/her own feelings, intellect and experiences to help a patient understand what unconscious thoughts and feelings might be lurking within his mind. Since no one (even Donald Trump) is perfect, you can readily imagine that neither are therapists (no matter how well trained and dedicated). THERE IS NO PERFECT! So sometimes therapists fail.

Yet, and back to the original question, are medications (and I’ll add the whole profession of psychiatry to the equation) as terrible as my ex-patient expressed? For him, and I still feel badly, it was not helpful.

For others, I still believe, even after all these years, that it is the best thing that we have. One day, with genetic engineering or who knows what, it will be better.

So what advice do I have, given the state of the art?

Be brutally honest with your psychiatrist.

If a medication doesn’t work, it doesn’t work.

If your therapist interprets something that you disagree with, DISAGREE!

State your mind.

Do everything in your power to honestly clarify your feelings and ideas.

Never give up! If psychiatry doesn’t work, keep plugging away and search for another solution. Even with all our current strife, COVID, and whatever else we need to contend with, life without psychological pain can be wonderful.

If you enjoyed reading, Inside the Mind of a Psychiatrist, you might also enjoy Dr. Smukler’s novels – Chasing Backwards, a psychological murder mystery, Skin Dance, a mystery, and The Man with a Microphone in his Ear. All are available as paperbacks and eBooks.

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EVIL IN THE WHITE HOUSE, by Art Smukler MD, author & psychiatrist

For quite a while, I’ve done the impossible – kept my mouth shut and my computer off with things pertaining to Donald Trump. But no more. I can’t tolerate his lies and the way that so many Republicans support and chuckle that what he’s doing is okay.

Everyday there is a new lie.

Everyday another person is attacked or fired for disagreeing with him.

Everyday he performs another outlandish action that hurts our country.

No mask. Get close. The virus is a Democratic disease blah, blah.

It’s sickening. I personally know a number of people who STILL support this manipulating sadist. I will not invite these people into my home. I can’t respect anyone who supports his brand of absolute utter disdain for the rules of law and accepts his abuse of power. If you support him, you condone name-calling, bullying, lying and on and on.

Will they care? Of course not. But I care!

If we don’t speak out against Trump – shame on us! His behavior and the behavior of his followers has created chaos and death.

Can you believe that he refused to allow a ship with COVID passengers to debark on our shores because IT WOULD MAKE THE NUMBERS HIGHER AND HE WOULDN’T LOOK GOOD. You can’t make this stuff up! He said it!

Even if you don’t agree with all the politics of Democrats, in all conscience please DO NOT SUPPORT Trump or his sycophants.

In the world of psychiatry not everything can be chalked up to underlying conflicts and the need to uncover unconscious motives. Spending even one second trying to reason with a psychopath is useless. I already know why Trump does what he does. Power! Greed! THE INABILITY TO EVER THINK OF SOMEONE BUT HIMSELF.

Whatever Trump says is a lie. That’s my new general rule and advice on how to deal with him. Even if his actual words are accurate, ALWAYS suspect his motivation.

If you enjoyed reading, Inside the Mind of a Psychiatrist, you might also enjoy Dr. Smukler’s novels, Chasing Backwards, a psychological murder mystery, Skin Dance, a mystery, and The Man with a Microphone in his Ear. All are available as paperbacks and eBooks.

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WOULD YOU RATHER? by Art Smukler, author & psychiatrist

Do you remember the kid’s game, Would You Rather? Would you rather have pins in your eyes or your ears? Would you rather eat only hotdogs or only ice cream for a week? And on and on…

What came to mind is the true story of Jack, a grade school friend, who was charged with Medicare fraud. Jack was a GP and sentenced to six months in a federal prison. The prison happened to be located on the same air force base in Florida, where I was stationed as a major (a psychiatrist) during the Viet Nam era. One “interesting” experience was the time that the base rabbi “invited” the medical staff to join him and his family as they hosted a bagels and lox brunch at the prison. The rabbi was a colonel and his “invitation” was actually a direct order. That morning dozens of doctors and prisoners shared the buffet and surprisingly, it was a pleasant experience.

Jack was incarcerated a few years after I completed my tour of duty, but the same rabbi was still hosting his monthly brunch. I assumed that Jack took full advantage of this prison perk.
A few years later, a good friend told me that after Jack got out of prison he decided to get divorced, give up his medical practice, and start a new life. Jack said, “Those six months were the best six months of my life. I never realized how miserable I was until I was sent to prison. It took prison to help me understand what I really wanted in life.” The last I heard, Jack had moved halfway across the country and was living “happily ever after”.

Our lives are finite and if we don’t make the most of them we waste an irreplaceable commodity. As most cancer survivors have learned, every moment we are alive and comfortable is a treasure.

What we show the world is often just the tip of the iceberg. Our true selves are often hidden below the surface, undiscoverable to the world and often to ourselves. Not only do we have the chance in Plato (*) to learn about subjects that interest us, we have more disposable time and this gives us more time to learn and think about who we really are and what we really want.

How many people give themselves the opportunity to listen to their own thoughts, and explore their own feelings? Do you need to have the radio on when you’re driving? How often do you just drive in silence or just sit in silence, letting your thoughts fill the void? Do you think about your dreams and take a shot at analyzing them? Do you ask friends and spouses what they observe about you and then do you take what they say and actually think about it?

Luckily, we have a chance to think about ourselves without having to get divorced or have a bagel brunch with the rabbi. Would you rather be in prison or be divorced? I choose neither. I choose to live each day with the opportunity to try and understand what’s really important to me. I recommend that for all of us.

*Plato is an independent group associated with UCLA that is dedicated to lifelong learning. It attracts all ages and many professors, physicians, lawyers, teachers, engineers, and anyone who loves the thrill of learning new things.

If you enjoyed reading, Inside the Mind of a Psychiatrist, you might also enjoy Dr. Smukler’s novels, Chasing Backwards, a psychological murder mystery, Skin Dance, a mystery, and The Man with a Microphone in his Ear. All are available as paperbacks and eBooks.

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RETIRED? TAKE THE MOST UNIQUE, ONE-OF-A-KIND JOURNEY OF YOUR LIFE, by Art Smukler MD, author and psychiatrist

WHERE? A place no one but you will ever visit.

WHEN? Now… Tomorrow… Whenever you choose.

HOW MUCH WILL IT COST? No money. Only time and courage.

Yep, you probably are on the verge of guessing it — a trip back to your past.

What does this have to do with retirement?

Time. Freedom. Enough money to get by on. All the tools that most of us never had before.

Like Janis Joplin and Kris Kristofferson sang in BOBBY MCGEE, Freedom’s just another word for nothing left to lose, nothing ain’t worth nothing but it’s free. Feeling good was easy lord when Bobby sang the blues. Feeling good was good enough for me, good enough for me and Bobby McGee.

I’m serious. When else in your life have you had the time to just hang out with yourself? No worries about getting good grades. No worries about making the football or dance team, no issues with your parents, getting a date Saturday night isn’t a big deal — every night is like a Saturday night and on and on.

Time’s running out. Often this is the endgame. How long will it last? Who knows? Ten years? Twenty years? Thirty? Who cares? It’s out of our hands. No power to predict.

But the power we have is significant. FREEDOM!

Remember your first date? What did she look like? What did she say? What did he say? What did you say? First kiss? First love? First fight? First job? First time you ate pizza. You get the idea.

Settle down in your favorite chair, in bed, on a bike, Starbucks, on a long car trip…anywhere, anytime. Let your thoughts wander. Have the courage to remember…the good, the bad, the ugly… Hey, what a great title. You think anyone has ever used that before? Ha Ha

It won’t be easy. Sometimes the pain might well up, just as powerfully as it did so long ago. But, so will the love, and excitement, and sense that life is a continuum, and we can retrace our steps.

Why?

It’s a chance to reconnect with our past, with friends and experiences we haven’t thought about in years. A chance to relearn what was important and what might still be important. Maybe even a chance to do what you never did, to feel again what you thought was gone forever.

It’s not too late to take the trip of a lifetime.

If you enjoyed reading, Inside the Mind of a Psychiatrist, you might also enjoy Dr. Smukler’s novels, Chasing Backwards, a psychological murder mystery, Skin Dance, a mystery, and The Man with a Microphone in his Ear. All are available as paperbacks and eBooks.

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