Why should I or anyone care what Huma Abedin is doing? Normally, we wouldn’t. But, if Anthony Weiner is elected Mayor of NYC, we might have wished we paid more attention.
In a reported email, Gloria Steinem wrote that Huma might be doing it because of new motherhood, the Stockholm syndrome, or a mystery.
The reason I think her behavior is worthy of our understanding is much more practical. Even though half of all marriages end in divorce, the anguish that someone goes through to separate from a committed relationship is profound. Often, the tentacles that bind two people are like Aron Ralston who self amputated his own right arm to save himself when a boulder crushed his arm and he couldn’t free himself any other way.
Anthony Weiner is a sex addict. His drive to use the Internet to relieve whatever need he has is primitive and defies logic. Addictions are VERY DIFFICULT to master and there’s a good reason that the world is filled with AA, NA, OA etc. Logic and therapy are only marginally helpful.
Huma Abedin can’t leave for her own reasons. Most of us, if we were strong enough, would probably accept that the ‘or worse’ part of the vow is now way too worse and move on. That doesn’t mean we would. In any marriage, it’s often less painful to stay trapped by the huge boulder, than cut off your own arm
If you enjoy being Inside the Mind of a Psychiatrist, you might also enjoy, Chasing Backwards, a psychological murder mystery, Skin Dance, a mystery, and The Man with a Microphone in his Ear. All are available as paperbacks and eBooks.